"If you have some respect for people as they are,
you can be more effective in helping them
become better than they are." -- John W. Gardner
I have a difficult neighbor who had a drinking problem and never got help for it. He seems sad, lonely, and judgmental. A widower, his wife died in child birth 40 years ago. I can separate the person from the illness. "Hurt people hurt." I can still feel some respect for him, even though I choose not to interact with him.