An Evening with Barbara Frederickson

Seymour Center, Chapel Hill, NC

May 30, 2019

with Barbara Frederickson:  on happiness, it can mean a series of moments.  She referred to "flourishing" -- the interplay of happiness and good deeds, engaging in meaningful activities, waking up in a good mood.

Ask Barbara and Dr. _____ (?)  about the Harvard study saying that for older people, exercise is more important than diet -- do you agree?  It's also an antidote to depression.  They agree, very important.  May be better to say "movement," as opposed to "exercise."

Spirituality:  important in terms of connections and experiencing positive emotions.

Positive connections.  Savoring.  Even chatting with the people making our coffee at Starbucks is important.

Daily Activities:  very important, according to Barbara.  Creating structure is important.

Re:  Coursera:  (her course was initiated 5 years ago;  the Friday Center produced it and Coursera sponsors it.  There are 4 "students" in her group and their answers are spontaneous and unrehearsed.  

On emotions:  it's thought and emotion.  Mindfulness can be helpful here -- helps us recognize and accept our emotions but not identify with the feeling. "R-A-I-N"

here's an idea from Lisa:  if you have a worry, write it down and "flip it" -- see how you can extract something positive from it.

Dr. (?)  studies depression and its affects on the body;  for ex., depression, according to Barbara, causes inflammation and diseases like arthritis and cancer.

"Head of Christ" from Warner Press

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Head_of_Christ

Warner Sallman

https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Head_of_Christ

A description of the famous painting by Warner Sallman.  This painting is known as the Sallman Head.  David Morgan of Duke has written extensively about Sallman's work.   https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Head_of_Christ

About Warner Sallman:  https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Warner_Sallman

The 100 things

1.  Meeting Booker from Liberia at the bookstore
2.  Chatting with Esther at the bookstore
3.  Coffee at Barnes and Noble
4.  AC Moore
5.  encouragement about my manuscript
6.  Lena Shull, NC poet
7.  Warner Sallman, "Head of Christ"
8.  David Morgan, Duke professor
9.  Medieval songs by St. Hildegarde of Germany
10.  A new journal to carry in my Mac case
11.  reference books on WWI
12.  daddy's letters
13.  my family
14.  deep breaths
15.  Alexandrian poetry (French)
16.  My body
17.  Barbara Frederickson
18. The panel discussion at the Seymour Center
19.  A dance performance in Chapel Hill tonight (May 30)
20.  Tomorrow would be my dad's 125th birthday
21.  May 31st
22.  Valuing the simple things
23.  A marvelous life
24.  I'll be 70 soon
25.  What am i gonna do?
26.  Go to Charlottesville, maybe?
27.  Call Small Library tomorrow about the box pertaining to  daddy in archives.
28.  Having photographs of the Books of Hours from U.Va.
29.  just discovered edna st. vincent millay
30.  there is a writer's retreat named for her`
31.  writing some poems for my book
32.  the zen of organized writing
33.  erin payne -- to chapel tomorrow
34.  john's note about Pigmeat Martin
35.  relaxing
36.  the extremely cool city of durham
37.  the church folk
38.  the world war one poet charles hamilton sorely
39.  staying home today (sunday) and resting
40.  food from Risha
41.  sharon's much better
42.  meeting barbara frederickson
43.  not trying to please anyone but myself
44.  charles hamilton sorley ww1 poet
45.  seeing rusty today
46.  franklin
47.  everything's nice and quiet
48.  limoges
49.  being sleepy -- to bed early tonight
50.  mon -- the chapel
51.  max richter sleep tape book marked
52.  Mozart
53.  Peaceful sleeps
54/  putting my poetry book together
55. Tami
56.  Seymour Center
57.  U. S. Women's soccer team
58.  my beautiful granddaughters
59.  recovery
60.  doing my best
61.  exercising everyday
62.  youTube
63.  the woods behind me
64.  Tuesday night movement class
65.  my mechanic
66.  Reading the Razor's Edge
67.  Good Report from my surgeon
68.  same from endocronologist
69.  turning 70
70.  tomorrow -- poetry group in CH
71.  clean kitchen and bathroom
72.  kettle bells
73.  pilobolous on Thursday!!!!
74.  and maybe friday!!!!
75.  hoping Crystal will be there
76.   U. S. women win!!!   World Cup
77.   Pilobolus thrilled the audience!
78.  I'll finish my Positivity class soon
79.  group meditation tonight
80.  sunday dance class
81.  Faculty Concert for ADF last nite
82.  seeing Jodee, Weston, John, and Mira there
83.  Reynolds theatre  --  wow
84.  Savor ---Tiche Naht Hahn's book  -- check the library
85.  writing standing up
86.  working standing up
87.  kale
88.  kombucha
90.  Tom
91.  this phrase:  "you're only as young as you feel"
92,  greet=ing Gerri Houlihan
93.  beth
94,  oatmeal w smashed banana in it
95.  old friend
96.  Franklin Golden
97.  a cool apt.
98.  a car that runs well
99.  coffee at the clubhouse -- did i already say that?
100. the gym there tool

Lena Shull

https://docs.google.com/viewerng/viewer?url=https://dc.lib.unc.edu//utils/getfile/collection/sohp/id/13688/filename/13730.pdf


Lena Shull oral history from UNC:  the church by the river,  making molasses.  Includes some audio as well.

Mary Queen of Scots

great book by Antonia Fraser:  Mary Queen of Scots

New Zealand Prayer Book

http://liturgy.co.nz/lord-it-is-night#comments

i love this prayer for the end of the day:

Lord,
it is night.

The night is for stillness.
Let us be still in the presence of God.

It is night after a long day.
What has been done has been done;
what has not been done has not been done;
let it be.

The night is dark.
Let our fears of the darkness of the world and of our own lives
rest in you.

The night is quiet.
Let the quietness of your peace enfold us,
all dear to us,
and all who have no peace.

The night heralds the dawn.
Let us look expectantly to a new day,
new joys,
new possibilities.

In your name we pray.
Amen.

by Rev. John Williamson, 1987

Gratitudes Since May 1, 2019

1. Monica
2.  Steevie
3.  Barb in Yellowknife NW Territories
4.  Many supportive phone calls
5.  sending a cute card to Margot
6.  "Walking" the Serenity Prayer
7.  Mary Ann, half way thru her pregnancy
8.  Side to side back rolls
9.  15 min. on the stationary bike
10.  a call from Santa Monica
11.  Steve, the guy who fixed my air conditioner
12.  Jenny
13.  Katya
14.  St. Mieux, France
15.  Rue Chalon, France
16.  pilates i can do at home
17.  dishes are done
18.  Dr. J. -- made an appt.
19.  Pd. my rent
20.  a roof over my head
21.  rent went up $50 but at least it didn't go up any more than that
22.  my bro
23.  dishes are done
24.  liv. room got vacuumed
25.  seeing shannon on wed.
26.  also mindfulness group
27.  ed in boston
28.  having the person who flamed me on FB blocked
29.  having kathy blocked
30.  all the supportive phone calls i' ve gotten
31.  mary ann in Islep, NY -- i'll call her tonight
31.  sharon''s family all flew in
32.  the clubhouse
33.  a quite apt.
34.  a safe apt.
35.  a beautiful son
36.  healthy granddaughters
37.  emily dickinson and her poem on hope
38.  the children's book on ED that i bought for margot  (emily dickinson)
39.  my children's poem:  "3 Little Turtles".
40.  poetry
41.  shakespeare
42.  having a brain
43.  mindfulness
44.  meeting the mayor last night -- great guy
45.  a pleasant evening
46.  the red adirondack chairs
47.  lilly library and the help i got there
48.  paper and ink from the WWI era
49.  meeting to go to in Hillsborough tomorrow
50.  writing my inventory
51.  a graphic novel about WWI
52.  gonna get new glasses
53.  French lavender oil
54.  Lee Smith
55.  Allen Gurganus is in my dance class
56.  40  hz binaural beats on sound cloud
57.  summer telling me about a movie with owen wilson about google
58.  duke eye care center
59.  not having any expectations
60.  the museum of durham history
61.  an oral history i need to take down there to get posted to soundcloud
62.  fresh apples
63.  sending maggie a get well card
64.  the chinese guy who carried my things out
65.  faith
66.Maude
67.  the beatles song about a lullaby
68.  the photo of my dad in his WWI uniform
69.  The Night Time Prayer
70.  Safe Trip home
71.  meeting with the investment team
72.  getting my things from John's
73.  the meeting tonite at 7:30 pm
74.  the North Street Community
75.  the clouds today
76.  prayer group Wed. morning
77.  WWI diaries
78.  Hope
79,  service dogs!!!
80.  butternut squash soup
81.  relaxing and taking it easy
83.  faith
84.  hope
85.  amanda diekman
86.  the body as temple
87.  my church
88.  desperation
89. erin payne
90.  my miraculous car
91.  ameriprise cuz they're so helpful
92.  dance festival coming up.
93.  pilobolus
94.  fellowship
95.  maggie west
96.  maddie
97.  dogs!!!
98.  rusty in particular
99.  existence
100.  steps to follow